Manhood and masculinity are in shambles in Western Civilization in general, and in America in particular. What is the cause, and what are its results?
John Eldridge in his book "Wild at Heart" has a wonderful model of what's going on. The point that resonated with me is the damage mothers can do to their sons as they try to "protect" them!
For a boy to develop into a man, he needs to explore, to have adventures, and touch on danger. This is why teen age boys ride their bikes in a suicidal manner, why young men become smoke jumpers, do rock climbing, or join the Ranger Batallions.
Mothers that forbid their sons play Army, to ride on the roller coasters, to go out for contact sports, and try to put them in a cocoon of bubble wrap to protect them only emasculate them!
Each boy needs to have bestowed upon him his "Warrior Masculine Heart". Only a Father can do this. But if a Father is not present in a boy's life, or if the boy is being raised in a home in which the mother wears the pants in the family, he never receives his warrior heart! He becomes a "nice boy" that minds his manners and is passive.
Women in their coffee klatches lament "there are no more "real men". Well, when moms raise their sons as women, what do they expect? There is much truth to an effeminate man being termed "a pussy!"
I had a friend Tom G. He was raised in the typical Christian Science home (where the women wear the pants in the family). When he was attracted to a woman, he would try to be a "friend", do unasked favors, send them gifts, etc. But he never had the courage to ask them for a date. He tried to be an ever-present lap dog, hoping for a pat on the head. But the anemic colorless friend is NEVER the one who gets the girl!
Here's the crux: if a boy does not receive his warrior heart from his Father or from a group of elder warriors, if he has no sense of what being a man is all about, he turns to Eve (the woman) to validate him as a man. But there are problems with this.
A woman is drawn to the strength of the man. If he then starts singing "You are my everything" or "I was nothing until I met you", (looking to her for validation) she is chagrined! Instead of finding strength, she finds a little boy hiding his face in her skirt! She either rejects him (and he jumps off a bridge, unvalidated) or marries him (and wears the pants in the family, the Christian Science route). And if sons come of this marriage, the Father has no warrior heart to bestow upon the son! And this is the state of America and the churches today.
Eldridge told of a passive anemic Pastor of the "sweet love of Jesus" school whose son joined the Marines! In hand wringing anguish, the Pastor couldn't understand "where he had failed". Answer: since the Father didn't bestow his Warrior Heart, the son turned to those who would!
What the emasculating church ladies are forgetting: the families, churches and the society need strong men to protect them. Passive emasculated "nice guys" are not the ones who hit the beaches at Normandy. They are not the ones who face death on the Sands of Iwo Jima. And for all the "War is not the Answer" pacifists out there, Japanese militarism and National Socialism weren't defeated by outreach and understanding dialogue. And neither will Militant Islam.
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